Thanks to all of you reading and commenting, I appreciate y'all!
I want to address some of the issues being raised in the comment section about Iremide.
First: "Didn't they do pre-marital counseling?"
Counseling is theory, while the bedroom is reality. In a counseling office, discussing sex is abstract. A bride (especially a virgin) can genuinely believe she is ready, agree to everything, and have the best intentions. But when the bedroom door closes and the actual moment arrives, physical panic can take over. A woman cannot talk herself out of a physical panic reflex in a counseling session any more than someone can talk themselves out of a phobia of heights just by reading a book about it.
Second: "She is being too childish and should have just spoken to Uche."
Admitting she is terrified to Uche just two days into the marriage can feel like admitting she is "failing" as a wife. She knows her duties and knows intimacy is expected of her, which creates immense pressure. We all respond to fear differently, some people freeze completely, while others use avoidance and bury themselves in housework. Because of Iremide's personality, she resorts to what she knows best: making jokes out of her fear.
Third: The timeline.
I don't think two days is enough time to get genuinely angry at Iremide. Because this series is slow-paced and captures almost every hour of their early days, it feels like we have spent a lot more time with them than we actually have. In reality, it has only been 48 hours. Many women delay sex for a week or more out of anxiety. I'm not saying Iremide's approach is perfect, but let's give her a bit of grace as she navigates this.
I'm also on about Ire's fear of intimacy. That is something they should have talked about. If they had, by now, Uche should have known that is what is holding her back.
This Iremides behavior is irritating. Is she a child? I don’t understand this kind of carrying on she’s doing over there. Didn’t they have any discussions about sex before getting married? I just find this situation odd
I get that she's scared, but if she can't talk to her husband about it now, I'm wondering how much schemes she'd have to plot before he gets frustrated.
Thanks to all of you reading and commenting, I appreciate y'all!
I want to address some of the issues being raised in the comment section about Iremide.
First: "Didn't they do pre-marital counseling?"
Counseling is theory, while the bedroom is reality. In a counseling office, discussing sex is abstract. A bride (especially a virgin) can genuinely believe she is ready, agree to everything, and have the best intentions. But when the bedroom door closes and the actual moment arrives, physical panic can take over. A woman cannot talk herself out of a physical panic reflex in a counseling session any more than someone can talk themselves out of a phobia of heights just by reading a book about it.
Second: "She is being too childish and should have just spoken to Uche."
Admitting she is terrified to Uche just two days into the marriage can feel like admitting she is "failing" as a wife. She knows her duties and knows intimacy is expected of her, which creates immense pressure. We all respond to fear differently, some people freeze completely, while others use avoidance and bury themselves in housework. Because of Iremide's personality, she resorts to what she knows best: making jokes out of her fear.
Third: The timeline.
I don't think two days is enough time to get genuinely angry at Iremide. Because this series is slow-paced and captures almost every hour of their early days, it feels like we have spent a lot more time with them than we actually have. In reality, it has only been 48 hours. Many women delay sex for a week or more out of anxiety. I'm not saying Iremide's approach is perfect, but let's give her a bit of grace as she navigates this.
Thank you once again for commenting!
Hmmm.
At least communication would be better, proper communication. Especially if Uche is her friend. It can be hard but communicate.😭
She's being so childish it's annoying 😭!!
Even me I am tired her own needs intervention 🥲
Sorry, please, excuse me,
What exactly did they talk about when they were courting? 🫣
Very important question, because how do you get to marriage and past relationships weren’t mentioned???
What she had with Tobi isn't exactly a relationship, let's find out on the next episode.
Oh okayy, but either way…anything that’s making her act like this and it’s a guy, a conversation should have been had mehnnn
Okayyyy. Fingers crossed.
I'm also on about Ire's fear of intimacy. That is something they should have talked about. If they had, by now, Uche should have known that is what is holding her back.
Make I wait for the next episode. 😂
This babe has upped her strategy o😭 as i saw that fast, I knew that she's looking for another excuse again😭
Uncle Uchenna refused to fall into the trap 😂😂
Very proud of him😂
Like how long can you keep up this tirade, it has to end, sooner or later
I know maturity is not by age o but how old is this girl again?
Because me I don't see her as a woman o.
Wetin dey occur?
Is your husband your brother? Which one is peck on the cheek every time?
Toh.
toh!!!
Okay this Ire babe don dey vex me o. I get that she's scared as per first time and all. But talk to him about it nau. 😭
Btw up Mama Shade o! Shade, your mouthhhh! 🤧
Ire needs to start having some form of character development, because o tin su mi😐
Didn't they do premarital counselling?
Now I'm getting tired of Iremide and it's seems she has more up her sleeves
This Iremides behavior is irritating. Is she a child? I don’t understand this kind of carrying on she’s doing over there. Didn’t they have any discussions about sex before getting married? I just find this situation odd
bunch of carrying on!!
I don't know why the whole thing is becoming annoying.
Ire is pushing this thing too far o.
I get that she's scared, but if she can't talk to her husband about it now, I'm wondering how much schemes she'd have to plot before he gets frustrated.
This babe still has still not kissed her husband since she married o lmaooo
I wasn’t expecting another chapter today.
Thank you.🥹
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Iremide is actually funny and annoying at the same time. 😂
Uche is the best husband for Iremide